This is an antiquated term for "persons of opposite sex sharing living quarters," which was used by the census bureau to define non-married roommates. The upside of this arrangement, besides tormenting your parents, was that you could work out your differences without the legal entanglements of marriage before taking the Big Step.
I am here to tell you that if it had worked, it would have. It didn't. Neither did getting married before you had to. After 54 years of marriage, however, I can offer a few suggestions.
1. Pick up after yourself. I had a friend whose husband kept dumping his dirty clothes on the floor. She started nailing them down. Socks, underwear, suits. Kept using longer nails. Didn't save the marriage, but gave her a lot of personal satisfaction.
2. Show some appreciation. Kiss your spouse, or at least hug 'em. Thank them for putting air in the tires, or taking in the mail.
3. Say "Gee, that was a great idea, (or movie, or restaurant" even if it wasn't.
3. Admit you were wrong. Hey, nobody's perfect. Say " I shouldn't have . . . but I did, and I won't do it again."
4. Tell them you love them, even if you don't, exactly, at that moment.
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